Full transcript: Dan Peña on regrets
0:14 Dan Peña: And I volunteered to go to officer candidate school infantry, Fort Benning, Georgia. And the first high performance act I ever performed was being commissioned as second lieutenant in July of 67. And it’s the first high performance thing I ever did. And I realized I had to compete, et cetera. And the rest has been, the world has been my oyster. That was the first high performance. Many people in this room have never performed a high performance act.
0:46 Dan Peña: You show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. Most of your friends are losers. And that’s why you’re a loser. As Jim Rohn said, one of the few things I agree with him, God rest his soul too, I believe I’m pretty sure he’s dead, is that you’re nothing more than the average of the five people you spent most of time with. Now, who’s that normally? Your mother, normally. If your dad wasn’t working or if he was working just your mother, an older brother, a grandmother, you know, right? Those are the five people.
1:18 Dan Peña: None of which are trained to train high performance people. None of which. And you wonder why you are the way you are. Now, I was fortunate. My dad was an alpha male. The, had been to two wars. The Second World War and the Korean War. And my mother, God love her, God rest her soul, read a Reader’s Digest article about a book in 1946. I’m one year old.
1:48 Dan Peña: And it was this book. Up until 1995 when he died, it was the highest selling book in copies behind the Bible. 50 million about child rearing. And my mother followed this like a religion. Self esteem is built from zero to seven or eight years old. So I had a lot of self esteem. My mother did a lot of, one of the simple things is you never tell your kid no.
2:19 Dan Peña: Well, you’ve raised, for those of you who raised, it’s **** hard not to tell your kid no. But my mother never told me no. My dad always said no, but my mother never told me no. Okay, so that was one thing my mother did different. Now, you gotta remember, my mother swam across the **** Rio Grande River as an illegal alien to come from Mexico to the United States. So I chuckle when I see Obama and all these guys fighting about, trying to keep illegal aliens. And I’m fighting like hell to get a Mexican passport now. It’s not so easy. You’d think that I could get a Mexican **** passport.
2:51 Dan Peña: I can’t. And if I can’t, nobody can. Okay, that’s one thing that we did different, or that she did different. My dad was an alpha male. All his friends were alpha males. I am the first alpha male many of you have ever seen up close. And you wonder why you are the way you are. We had a very bright Chinese kid. The last seminar said, this is the alpha male that we always, never had and always wanted, the role model. I’m not trying to be your father, believe me.
3:22 Dan Peña: I don’t give a **** about you. I’m here selfishly, because I wanna, when I put dirt on me someday in 50, 80 years from now, I wanna be known as the Latter-day Saint of high performance coaching, the greatest high performance coach that ever lived. Much not dissimilar to what Napoleon Hill and his reputation. I’m certainly, I’m the only one that talks about creating wealth, because I’m the only one that **** has ever created wealth. Did you ever wonder why none of the other guys talk about money?
3:54 Dan Peña: None of them. Not a **** one. Because they never created it. The only money they ever **** made is putting asses on seminar seats selling you **** books. You **** morons. You **** [inaudible]. So I had alpha male. I had the Dr. Spock book. And I rebelled against my cop dad. And I got in a lot of trouble.
4:25 Dan Peña: Went off the army, the army made a man out of me. As it does, I believe that the world should be going back to conscription where they draft people. I believe in that. I believe in that system. So, I founded Great Western with 800 bucks. A lot of you know the story. I turned it into 450 million dollars in eight years in a collapsing market. With my infinite timing, I got into the oil business when oil was $41.40 a barrel. It went immediately into six bucks a barrel. Everything I’ve touched, bought, was out of business before the ink dried.
5:00 Dan Peña: And I did it here in London, in the city. And so when the shareholders threw me out, because I got paid too much money, I owned 80% of the company on the London Stock Exchange. What am I gonna do? So one of my friends said, you’re a great speaker, Dan, why don’t you coach? I tried teaching university one year. It was very unfulfilling. Kids were **** 20 years ago. I can imagine what they are now.
5:32 Dan Peña: I developed a QLA methodology. I went back and I reversed engineered. How did I do this step by step? And I put together the seven steps and I taught it. I thought that that would be more than enough since there was nobody else there had created anything to collect a lot of people to follow my programs. That wasn’t the case. Because everybody would say, I’m not Dan Peña. I’m not a gifted speaker. What you’re really saying is I’m a ****. And I have no balls.
6:05 Dan Peña: That’s what you’re really saying. But it took me 10 years to figure that out. And I’m **** smart. And so, as I said earlier, I took away the excuse that Dan’s **** is too expensive. I gave it away. I gave these seminars, the first gig I’ve done this century outside the castle. Because these deals fail. You’re all gonna fail. Every **** one of you in here.
6:36 Dan Peña: And if Brian told you any different, he’s full of ****. Because one day for the guys, one day sleeping with, who’s the hottest chick around now? Movie actress. Who’s a hot chick? Doesn’t anybody sleep with, I mean, what the ****? What’s wrong with? Well, pick one. Sleeping with her one time or sleeping with him one time does not make you a Lothario. Lothario, a seducer.
7:08 Dan Peña: The guy that gets chicks or got a girl. So this isn’t gonna change your life. What it’ll do for most of you, it’ll reaffirm that you’re wasting your time. Better that you go home and eat a 45 or a 38. And I know it’s hard to get handguns in the UK, but I can help you out if you need one. I can help you out. When Brian was at the seminar, the second day, I think, he went back from the seminar room to his room.
7:39 Dan Peña: He turned off the lights. He lied on the floor, right? And he shut his eyes, more or less collapsing, because he’s smarter than most of the guys in the room. I don’t know how long it took Brian the mustard, but he realized how **** up he was. And you all look up to him like he’s something. He’s not a fart in the wind either. He made a few bob, walked away from a successful career.
8:10 Dan Peña: I like the way he puts from Banker to Broadcaster. Banker to Broadcaster, maybe he’s left-handed. Okay, Banker to Broadcaster. But he’s got that, what do you have? Nothing. But his message resonates with a lot, a lot of people. You’re all Realers, for the most part. In most cases, that’s not good. That’s not good.
8:40 Dan Peña: Because most of the Realers don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. So I coach, I became successful. I created billionaires, et cetera, et cetera. I created Mikey the Pizza Boy, kids like this.
9:01 Dan Peña: And I was discovered, more or less, by Brian Rose early last year, although I had to push him and punch him, and not physically punch him, and beat on him to be on his first show. And that first show was a success. And then people wanted documentaries about me. They wanted to do, there’s two reality shows in the process of being planned, one in the UK and one in the US.
9:33 Dan Peña: He interviewed me again, went to the seminar. He interviewed me at the end of the seminar. Now I’ve done, I don’t know, 20, 25 different podcasts. I initiated my own podcast, where I’m not interested in interviewing anybody, because nobody got anything worth listening to. I mean, that’s why I don’t understand. And the reason why they listen to your podcast is because they’re all melon heads, because they’re not bright enough to know that they got nothing to say, these other people. They got nothing to say.
10:05 Dan Peña: And if you think you’re gonna pay your bills with **** zen, eat a gun tonight. Speaking of zen, I go to Asprey’s biohacking conference in September. I didn’t even know what biohacking was, never heard of it. And my wife and I and one of my mentees, who’s a biohacker, and I went into a room because I wanted to get a good seat, because I wanted to hear De Sena, the Spartan guy.
10:40 Dan Peña: I wanted to hear him talk, so I get there early, so I get up in the front row. But it was five or six minutes, the yogi or shaman or whatever he was, was late. So he says, I’m gonna do one more exercise for you guys. One more. So he says, we’re gonna see if we can transmit through our third chakra. I don’t know what the ****, I’m in the back of the room. And they told us to take this position and all this, and then I can see through it.
11:16 Dan Peña: And I kind of break the trance a little, and I tell Chris and my wife Sally, I see you. I got this position, and then Chris says, no **** way. I says, yes, **** way. And I says, he’s walking across the stage to the right. He’s going back to the left. And the people around me start to gather around me, just like you’re gonna gather around me during the breaks, like **** little melons. No way, dude! No **** way! I’ve been meditating for 800 million years!
11:48 Dan Peña: And I never looked so off through my **** third chakra, because you’re a ****! I have never meditated one **** microsecond before that, nor since then. So, we’re going to have lunch with a friend of mine the day after the seminar. And I got everybody in a buzz talking about this. And her name is Mary, and she had just died. Been pronounced dead. And the paramedics, when they’re taking her back to the hospital, dead, they said, well, why don’t we give the old, good looking woman, why don’t we give the old hag a couple of jolts?
12:27 Dan Peña: She had already had seven jolts that had fried her chest. Why don’t we give the old hag a couple of jolts? I know it’s just because they wanted to play with their big tits. But anyway, let’s give the old hag a couple of jolts. And they brought her back to life! By serendipity, by **** accident! I personally think they also **** her, but that’s me. And her husband, I know they banged her too. And so I went over to her house, the rich.
12:58 Dan Peña: He came to my first seminar, her husband. We had already known them. And so I said, oh, you gotta tell me about this. Tell me. No, I didn’t see the bright light, Dan. What the **** did you see? Dark. Dark. And I didn’t even think of this. But I did think. What’d you think about? I don’t wanna reinforce what you already know. Tell me the word. Please, Mary, tell me. Regrets.
13:30 Dan Peña: Thank you. I regretted. That’s all that went through my **** brain. All the things I didn’t do. Regrets. I have been saying that for 22 years of coaching. And 25 years before that, I’ve given a lot of eulogies.
14:01 Dan Peña: I’m a world-class eulogy giver, and I normally go and see the person, because I think they’re gonna die and they’ve asked me to give the eulogy, and I’m by the bedside. I’m listening to them, you know, their last conscious words. Not one time has anybody ever said, I regret not having gone to the football game of my son. Not one **** time has anybody ever said, I’m sorry I missed my sweet 16 birthday party for my daughter. Not one mother **** time. They all say the same thing.
14:32 Dan Peña: I wish I coulda, I **** shoulda. Their last conscious thought are **** regrets. And when Mary told me this, having been dead, that it carries over, I was so **** happy, I didn’t know whether to **** or go blind. I wanted to jack off on the **** bar stool. Because I’ve known this. Because I know when the last conscious words are in my ear, I regret, it’s gotta carry over.
15:06 Dan Peña: We’re all energy, right? It’s gotta carry over. Now just imagine if you **** miserable **** died tonight, the regrets you’re carrying to the grave.
