Nigel Owens – Respect

Nigel Owens MBE is a Welsh international rugby union referee. He is one of three professional referees at the Welsh Rugby Union.

00:00 Trailer.
02:07 Brian’s thoughts on the episode.
04:44 Brian’s introduction.
05:26 The game of rugby and what it means to Nigel.
09:41The value of respect in the different culture of rugby from football (soccer).
13:41 What it is like to walk out as a referee on to the stage of a rugby field.
19:37 Known for his one liners.
25:24 How Nigel reads the temperature of a game of rugby.
29:04 The national rivalries taking place in sporting arenas.
32:11 TMOs, their use and value.
34:45 Rugby team management styles and importance of grass roots rugby.
39:49 Nigel talks proudly and passionately about Wales, the country and its language.
44:42 How Nigel came to be a referee.
49:00 Growing up in Wales, Nigel speaks out against bullying.
53:49 Mental turmoil in coming to terms with his sexuality and of a suicide attempt.
1:05:26 Further years of worry about possible consequences of coming out to the rugby community.
1:15:51 The response to him coming out.
1:17:45 Nigel talks of his journey in order to help others who struggle with mental health issues.
1:23:04 Communication by speaking to people, is key in sport, work and life.
1:26:32 Possible reasons for lack of gay players coming out in other sports.
1:32:33 Only when you are allowed to be true to yourself can you be the best at what you do.
1:37:03 The future of rugby in the context of safety in a hard, dangerous, contact sport.
1:41:59 Success secrets.
1:42:44 What we would be surprised to learn about Nigel.
1:48:02 Nigel’s sadness at not having children.
1:52:54 Phone call to the 20 year old Nigel Owens.
1:54:45 Best advice ever received.
1:55:50 Advice to the young man watching who wants to be a referee like Nigel or a rugby player.
1:57:19 Brian’s summing up.

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great man with great suffering

Dominic Jones

Great speaker. Thank you 🙂

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Once again iv been humbled by a great man in Nigel, I didnt know who he was until now as i only clicked to watch the title respect.

Love is the only way forward, great job to you both.


Nigel has a bueatiful soul! a lucid and inspirational interview thank you Brian & Nigel


Fantastic interview. What a wonderful, genuine man Nigel is, plus a top class referee. I’ve met him in Galway a few times and he always has time to chat to my son. As a psychotherapist and someone who’s suffered from depression myself, I applaud his openness in discussing his difficulties and encouraging others to do so.
Thanks Brian and Nigel


I think what he’s doing is very important. I can only imagine the kind of pain someone would feel if they were gay but felt like the world wanted them to be straight. When he spoke about trying to kill himself, that really hit home for me.