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Chris Voss – Mastering The Art Of Negotiation

Chris Voss is the former FBI Lead International Kidnapping Negotiator, who handled more than 150 international hostage cases, and spent three years investigating the first bombing of the World Trade Center.

He is the co-author of the bestselling book ‘Never Split The Difference’ and the founder and principal of The Black Swan Group, a consulting firm that advises Fortune 500 companies to perform complex negotiations.

Chapters:
00:00 Trailer.
03:42 Brian’s thoughts on the episode.
05:59 Brian’s introduction.
06:36 Negotiation technique applies to terrorists as it does in business and parenting situations.
10:19 How Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un negotiations resolved after such an aggressive start.
19:45 Power of likeability in negotiations.
21:10 Unknown unknowns are the overlap of the unknowns.
29:03 The use of silence.
34:42 Massacre at 1972 Munich Olympics was the trigger for terrorist hostage negotiation.
41:04 Never be so sure of what you want that you wouldn’t take something better.
51:12 Trying to get into the brain of other people has changed Chris as a person.
55:02 The goal of the negotiation is not to get the other side to say ‘yes’.
56:32 How sociopaths can be skilled at negotiation.
59:02 The epitome of what you want to come out of hostage negotiations with.
1:12:52 What hostage takers want from negotiations.
1:14:53 Beware of the win, win offer.
1:15:46 Turning a negative into a positive.
1:26:35 Never be mean to someone who could hurt you by doing nothing.
1:28:01 Be aware of where a winning a deal could later be lost.
1:29:21 How he can train someone to become a negotiator if role-play is ineffective.
1:33:37 Chris likes negotiation techniques that psychopaths and missionaries like.
1:37:10 He continues to learn since transitioning into running a company.
1:38:58 How a former Cop has transitioned through life and now keeps abreast of new scientific ideas.
1:41:10 Women as negotiators.
1:44:15 What a good deal should be.
1:44:47 Influence of film portrayals of deal negotiations.
1:46:12 Being empathetic makes life more interesting.
1:49:16 How Chris dealt with a hostage situation that went wrong and people got killed,
1:53:49 What is Chris’ super power.
1:55:00 What scares Chris.
1:58:20 What he will be doing in 10 years.
1:59:34 What is surprising about Chris.
2:00:48 What keeps him awake at night.
2:01:40 Success secrets.
2:02:24 Advice Chris has followed.
2:03:43 Advice to 20-year olds listening who want to be more empathetic or lead but keep their own values.
2:05:31 What Chris means by his book title “Never Split the Difference”.
2:06:36 Brian’s summing up.

Notes:
Black Swan Ltd
https://blackswanltd.com/
Chris Voss on Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Voss

Books:
Never Split the Difference – Negotiating as If Your Life Depended Upon It.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended-ebook/dp/B014DUR7L2

Topics discussed:
Limbic system
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limbic_system
One Day in September
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Day_in_September
Special Weapons and Tactics (SWAT)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SWAT
Proof of Life
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proof_of_Life
Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life ,,, and Maybe the World
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Make-Your-Bed-Little-Things/dp/1455570249
Cold reading
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cold_reading
The Culture Code: Secrets of the Highly Successful
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Culture-Code-Secrets-Highly-Successful/dp/1847941265
The Rise of Superman; Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rise-Superman-Decoding-Ultimate-Performance/dp/1784291226
Stealing Fire
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=Stealing+Fire
Barking Up The Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success is (Mostly) Wrong
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Barking-Wrong-Tree-Surprising-Everything/dp/0062416049
The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure
https://www.amazon.co.uk/10X-Rule-Difference-Between-Success/dp/0470627603

People mentioned in this episode:
Donald Trump
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donald_Trump
Kim Jong-un
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Jong-un
Mike Pompeo
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mike_Pompeo
Daniel Goleman
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Goleman
William H McRaven
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_H._McRaven
Robert Herjavec
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Herjavec
Elon Musk
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk
Warren Buffett
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warren_Buffett
Oprah Winfrey
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oprah_Winfrey
Tom Brady
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Brady
Michael Jackson
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Jackson
Lance Armstrong
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lance_Armstrong
Ned Colletti
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ned_Colletti
Anderson Cooper
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anderson_Cooper
Grant Cardone
https://londonreal.tv/e/grant-cardone-the-10x-rule-updated/
Ross Edgley
https://londonreal.tv/e/ross-edgley/

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adriman842

When will you be launching this book on Audible please?

Ivan Sarecz
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It’s out on the London Real podcast. (e.g. iTunes)

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Dear Mr.Rose, I own / read the book and subscribe to Black Swan…this was an absolutely fascinating interview. Thank You.